Are tensions and stress becoming more evident in your relationship?  Do the same arguments repeat without a resolution? Are you tired mentally and emotionally? Relationships are fundamental for humans as we are social beings with a need for  connection. You entered a deeper connection with your partner because you felt  and expected, that together, you would  have a better, happier life.

Those feelings are changing now. It seems this person who you connected with so well in the beginning has changed. Their   thoughts and actions don’t  fit with what  you want in life. These are not necessarily all the big things in life, but smaller things like who does what around the home. Small matters  are a source of constant arguments. We all change over time, but something doesn’t feel right now. Closeness has evaporated, and sometimes the distance   between you feels unbridgeable. Instead of comfort and security, your relationship now starts to feel stressful and uncertain. You are starting to have worries about the future for yourself, your children, or others that depend on you.

You have tried to make things better with them. When you try and discuss your worries, your partner shuts you down, or shuts down themselves. There is a block that despite your efforts, you cannot get around, and despite your efforts, the block does not go away, the distance gets wider. There is something about your partner you don’t understand, but they are reluctant to talk. You wonder is there some condition underlying this?

What would it be like feeling safe in the companionship of your partner, knowing that there is a deeper  connection between you. This connection means you wake up  each morning next to the person you  trust to have your back in the daily difficulties you face. Companionship  replaces loneliness, with increased  trust and connection.

My specialism is working with couples using the Gottman couple therapy method. 94% of couples experiencing   conflict  and engaging in this method report improvements in their situation. You are reading this page  as you are seeking  effective  professional help with your relationship, and the Gottman method delivers such help.